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Look at the picture above. Is that your projection when you are at a dance club? I doubt it
that you will be asked to dance if that is the attitude you are projecting (PDI or DAP).
Perception plays a big role here. Not your perception of how you look BUT HOW
OTHERS PERCEIVE YOU.

According to Kurt "The concept of PDI is to show others you are indeed a person who likes
to dance and is approachable." There is some validity to this. Looking from a man's point of
view, it is less scary to approach a lady that has PDI (Positive Dance Image) than one that
has a grouchy look on her face. If a lady has good DAP (Dance Approachability Projection)
she will be dancing a lot more compaired to one that stands behind the scene and pouts or
frowns.

We can learn from nature about PDI or DAP. Remember it is about perception and
projection. When male birds are trying to attract a female they show their best pose and
show their colors. They want to be PERCEIVED as the best as they PROJECT their colors
and poses.

I would like to bring out this point to help the ladies understand one reason why guys do not
approach ladies with no PDI or bad DAP. Men (in general) do not handle rejection well. So
to avoid that feeling of rejection, guys will generally AVOID women that are PERCEIVED
as unapproachable. The fear of rejection is real. It does take a lot of guts for a man to ask a
lady to dance.

So ladies, here are a few tips to help you to get men (and/or more men) to ask you to dance
(REMEMBER: Projection & Perception):

SMILE = This doesn't mean you must smile EVERY second. Look at people and smile
every so often. PROJECT a friendly aura. When guys see you smiling, he will not be afraid to
approach you.

DO NOT STAND WITH ARMS CROSSED = This is a sure sign that you are not
interested in dancing at all. Combine this with a frown and you will not be approached.

MOVE TO THE BEAT = Do this while you are positioned by the dance floor area or even
when talking to your friends. Guys will notice this and you will be approached.

APPEAR TO BE HAVING FUN = This should be a given. If you appear to be having fun,
men will ask you to dance. There is no doubt here.

STAND NEAR THE DANCE FLOOR = Do not hide away in the back. Men look for
people to dance with. Present yourself. Follow the suggestions above while standing near the
dance floor.

GRAB A FRIEND TO DANCE WITH = This works well for both men and women
specially if you are new to the club. Of course you cannot do this if you go alone. The
concept is to PRESENT yourself. You like to dance. Dance a few songs (2-3) with your
friend and while dancing SHOW YOU ARE ENJOYING THE DANCE AND HAVING
FUN. (Perception & Projection)

GO ASK A MAN TO DANCE = This is hard for some ladies to do BUT if you do this a
few times (2-3) that same night other men will see that you just want to dance and you will be
asked more. It is all about the dance and nothing more.

AT ALL COST AVOID LOOKING GROUCHY, MEAN OR UNFRIENDLY = If you
want to stand at the club all night long, just look unfriendly (frowning is not good). You will
not get approached.

IF YOU ARE NOT UP FOR DANCING, STAY HOME! = I know this sounds very
dramatic but it makes sense. If you go to the club and are not really into it, do not complain
you didn't get asked to dance. Stay home, regroup, then go out the next time. Get your grove
back.

SHOW CONFIDENCE = There is nothing more attractive than showing your are confident
in yourself. It doesn't matter if you are a beginner or a professional. Show you are confident
in yourself and all you want to do is DANCE! This is a MAJOR signal in my opinion.

These simple suggestions will go a long way. It is all about YOUR PROJECTION and
HOW YOU ARE PERCEIVED.

Good luck out there and have FUN! I hope to see you at a nearby dance floor!

KEEP LEARNING, KEEP DANCING, KEEP SPREADING THE LOVE FOR SALSA!

Author: John "salseroblanko" Morey - SALSA SPECIALIST